So many people rant about self-love, and I don’t know about you, but I often wonder things like, “They’re just saying that because they have someone” you know? I’m skeptical to people who have millions of loving people in their lives who talk about self-love being the only love that “matters”. And then there are those perfect, flat stomached, curvy girls who say looks don’t matter so don’t hate your body. Love it for what it is.
We all are in this journey in life to find someone to complete us. Some of think we already found them, some of us never stop looking and some of us hate our lives because we don’t have that someone. What is this someone for, you ask? It is to help bury all those insecurities. Am I pretty enough? Am I skinny enough? Am I funny enough? Am I lovable? Am I fun to be around? We want someone who’s going to answer all those questions in a positive way for the rest of our lives to feed our growing insecurities.
What if you’ve already got that person and you’ve no idea? What if I told you I know who completes you?
It’s you.
Yes, I’m starting to sound like those people who talk about self-love too, aren’t I? Well times have changed and I’ve had some growing up to do. It’s not just one or two but almost everyone who loves themselves seems to have a lot of people who love them. Everyone who feels confident about how they look is often perceived as beautiful and gorgeous. Are you seeing the common denominator here?
Be that person who sits on the bed with yourself and hold your own hand and stop those tears. Learn to cheer yourself up. You were born as a whole and you don’t need someone to complete you. Once you’ve reached that stage where you love yourself whether you lose that 10 kilos or not, those petty things won’t matter. And when you’re around people you’ll start thinking about how they make you feel rather than panicking about whether they like you or not. That’s the day you’ll find love, and friends and people who accept you for who you are. And that’s the day you’ll feel beautiful inside out.
– The Obsessive Writer
exactly..not matters what others thing bout you..but what do you feel is more important..well said Abi
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Thank you 🙂
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That is so true. It is very important to love yourself, accept yourself and enjoy spending time with yourself.
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If you can’t love yourself then how can you love another!
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Exactly! 🙂
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Self love..I was one of the same persons who would find the SOMEONE to answer those questions but after I have lost that person I started to realise how beautiful self love is..you find a new constant companion in your own SELF..very beautifully written..Abirami ..
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Thank you 🙂
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The whole talk about self love don’t make it any easier to practice.
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As hard as it can be, you’ve got to realise it’s what’s good for you
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Figure out how to be happy with yourself. If you can’t, you will not be able to be happy with anyone else. It’s impossible.
Nice post.
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Thank you 🙂
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Important reminder that I needed today. Thank you!
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Thank you for reading 🙂
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Loved this blog…I have to start thinking more of how people make me feel rather than if they like me!
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Yes 🙂
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I don’t think relationships are about insecurities. Hope you don’t mind me disagreeing but to me its about companionship. We’ve all got friends we can turn to in order to chat about problems, share successes with or cry with when we’re sad but they’re not always there. Sometimes they’re not as much of a match so its not as easy to open to (granted its easier than opening up to a stranger or some acquaintance at work!). That’s why your partner is there. They’re a match for you (thanks to the dating, the relationships, the arguments and the years spent working each other out) and though it’ll never be a 100% match they are easier to talk to. Its also why those best friends who you’ve known for years and years are almost/as easy to talk to as your partner.
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I agree with what you say actually. Relationships shouldn’t be about insecurity. That’s what my whole post is about 🙂
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thank you for this. something i struggle with ( i just wrote something on this!) often, but i’m learning, and not afraid to keep going. nice to be on a similar page with others.
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Thank you for reading 🙂
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Completely true.
When I love myself I create a space that I can believe others love me.
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Exactly! Thank you for reading 🙂
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That’s a nice post.
If you can’t love yourself then how do you expect others to love you either.
It’s valentine’s week, I have written relating to your post.
Please take some time out to read my post too, thanks.
https://wordpress.com/post/thoughtsovercoffee133.wordpress.com/278
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Thank you 🙂
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